Self-care. We hear this everywhere nowadays. It is a term that encompasses anything that helps you to refill yourself or to decompress. That varies tremendously from one person to another. One important note about self-care: Pay attention to whether or not it actually is positive in your life. Sometimes, a person might think something is engaging in self-care, like drinking alcohol to unwind, or scrolling on their phone for several hours at a time, or binge-watching 8 hours o

Let’s start with a little history lesson. There used to be a diagnosis called Seasonal Affective Disorder that described depression that worsened during certain times of the year. That was eventually changed and no longer a stand-alone diagnosis. Instead, the descriptor “with a  seasonal component” can be added to many of the mood disorders. Keep in mind that it isn’t just depression that can feel worse at certain times of year, anxiety can also be impacted. Additionally, the

The second part of this series focuses on the unanswered questions. These questions can feel like they inhibit closure and are impossible to ever really answer. How are we supposed to get closure on questions we will never have the answers to? There are a couple of approaches to this. Let’s start with the common questions that can be hard to get answers to. Here are some examples: Why didn’t he/she listen to me when I said I would eventually leave if this didn’t change? Why w

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