We all grow up hearing these things:   “Relationships take work.” “No relationship is perfect.” “Every relationship has its problems.” And these are all true….to a degree, and that is the part that I think isn’t talked about enough. Relationships do take work, but what if one person is working way harder than the other person and that isn’t changing? No relationship is perfect, but what are the things you tolerate as problems versus the things that are dealbreakers? Every relationship has...

There are two different ends of the continuum when it comes to this, or you might find yourself someone in the middle and not sure. One end is the “burn it all!” end. This involves a feeling of wanting to purge everything, to take all of the photos, ticket stubs, and anything else you can find and to watch it burn in a fire pit. The other end involves keeping every single little thing, looking at pictures all the time, and feeling stuck in what once was. It is normal to have moments where you...

“You’re so strong.” “I don’t know how you do it.” “You’re so good at bouncing back.” “I know you’ll figure this out.” “You are so pro-active.” “You have so much self-control.” “You are so resilient.” These statements can all be true AND being resilient over and over again can also be incredibly exhausting. I think that is the side of resilience that is often not seen or talked about. People mean well when they are encouraging and they see and speak to your strength. But there is also a hard...